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17.4.26- Why I stopped believing you have to feel worse to feel better.

For a long time, I believed something that, looking back, feels quite heavy…
That to feel better, I first had to feel worse.
I would leave sessions feeling emotionally drained, sometimes even more overwhelmed than when I arrived—but I told myself that was just part of the process. “You’ve got to feel worse before you can feel better,” I’d remind myself. So I kept going, holding onto the hope that one day there would be a breakthrough—a sudden shift where everything would finally click into place.
But that shift never quite came in the way I expected.
Instead, I stayed stuck in a cycle of revisiting the same problems, analysing them, pulling them apart… and in many ways, reinforcing them.
Now, don’t get me wrong—other forms of therapy have definitely helped me to some extent in the past, and talking about things can be incredibly important. Feeling heard, understood, and validated has real value.
But for me, there came a point where repeatedly going over the same issues didn’t feel like it was moving me forward anymore.
That’s one of the things I love most about solution focused hypnotherapy—it offers something completely different.
Rather than digging into the problem, we gently shift the focus away from it.
Because the truth is, the brain doesn’t know the difference between something vividly imagined and something actually happening. So when we repeatedly talk about our problems—replaying them, analysing them, reliving them—we can unintentionally keep those feelings very active and present.
It’s a bit like rehearsing the very thing we’re trying to move away from.
Solution focused hypnotherapy takes a more forward-looking approach.
Instead of asking “Why is this happening?” we begin to explore “What do you want instead?”
We start noticing what’s already going right—even in small, seemingly insignificant ways.
And those small shifts matter.
Because what we focus on grows.
Through this process, alongside the deep relaxation of hypnosis, the brain begins to form new patterns. It starts to recognise possibilities, solutions, and strengths that may have previously gone unnoticed.
For me, this approach didn’t just change how I worked—it changed how I experienced my own mind.
I realised that I didn’t have to keep revisiting the past to move forward.
I just needed a different focus.
And that’s what I now offer my clients—a space where change feels possible, hopeful, and, importantly… gentle.